Friday, September 08, 2006

For lack of a better way to ease into this subject, I am just going to jump right in and get to the climax of the post, so just imagine that I said something philosophical and intelligent that eases into the subject and doesn't startle anyone. My mom and step dad are separated and they are most likely getting divorced, unless otherworldly forces intervene and change everything. Jerry finally got fed up and moved out last weekend. He and Rachael and Joey are living a cute, very nice apartment down the street from their former residence where my mom is still residing and they had lived their entire lives heretofore. The thing that surprises me is that Joey's Bar Mitzvah was the weekend before and everything seemed fine. They looked happy and like they liked each other. They danced together at the party and I was under the impression that my mom had changed her behavior and all was good. Apparently not.

The last straw was Thursday when Mom found out Rachael wasn't doing well in her math class, and then she grounded her when she asked to be allowed to switch from Pre-AP Math into the regular math class. Mom destroyed Rachael's room looking for her cell phone, threw Rachael's books off her shelf at her, then threw her bookbag at her. When Jerry found out that Rachael had done all of her assignments on time, contrary to Mom telling him that she hadn't, he decided that this was the last straw.

I spent all last week being furious with my mother. She messed up bad, and she is incapable of owning up to her faults and making any efforts to fix them. Now I just have a huge load of pity for her. She doesn't even know how badly she has lost her family. She still thinks they will come back to her eventually. She is still telling Jerry that he is messing up her finances by pulling this stunt. She thinks she didn't do anything wrong. Why won't they just let her be herself. But that is exactly what they are doing. They are letting her be herself, all by herself. The friends have been divided, and all of "their" friends are now "his" friends. She only has her few friends from other places, most of whom aren't very involved in her life. So she is all alone. She is depressed, and I am worried that she might try to kill herself, if only as an attention stunt. But I can tell you that if she ever says that she is going to kill herself, I am having her committed. Even if I only get the mandatory 72 hours in the psych ward of the hospital.

Jerry is doing a fine job of providing for them, even on the limited funds he has until payday. R and J are happy and doing well in school. R's math grades are up. And Jerry said that she hasn't gone to hide in the closet since they left the house. I wasn't even aware that she would do that, but I guess that was the only place to get away. Jerry is planning on buying a new house in the next six months near their highschool and his parents.

This all sucks. This isn't how things were supposed to be. I'm sure things are going to be settled down by my wedding, but now we will all have to walk on egg shells when they are in the same room, and things will be awkward. R and J are supposed to have a mom that loves them and helps them grow into adults. I'm supposed to have kids and be able to drop them off with both of them. Not him or her. Now I have three parents and they are all separated. I have three parents to divide time and holidays and vacations with. Ug, my mom is so stupid.

Anyways, thanks for the therapy session. Let me know how much I owe you.

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